What are you critical of?
There are many humans in the world, and there are people with very critical attitudes. Excessive critical attitudes can make people around them tired and difficult. But there is a very important principle here. It is "what are you critical of".
What is critical of yourself, is it "O" or "X"?
Those who maintain a critical view of their thoughts and actions are more likely to underestimate themselves. They think the same way even if objective evidence is presented that they have excellent ability.
Everyone has an experience of being hurt by a single word. The proverb, "A word pays off a debt of thousands of dollars," can be used anywhere in the world. The same is true of what we say to ourselves. Some people think carefully about what they say to others, but others do not hesitate to say harsh words to themselves. The words you usually have in your mind can motivate you or, on the contrary, hinder your self-development.
Yahoo Health in the U.S. introduced "seven things to talk to yourself that need to be stopped right now."
"I'm fat. I'm ugly"
Self-deprecation is human nature. However, for my development, it is difficult to throw negative language at myself. Try not to use self-disrespecting words as much as possible and choose words that can consciously give you energy. If you say "I'm healthy" instead of "fat" and think "I look unique" instead of "ugly," your life can change positively.
"I was unlucky"
You shouldn't think of it as just "luckless" over an unfulfilled goal. Dr. Noah St. John, a self-development expert, said, "Luck doesn't come naturally, but comes when you try harder to have that opportunity." In particular, he advised, "Don't compare the life of a person you followed on SNS with your own."
"- I should have...”
Saying 'I should have exercised' can be a manifestation of guilt. Life coach and writer Belinda Anderson said it was better to say to herself, "I decided not to exercise today," instead of expressing guilt. If you think that you made your choice like this, you are likely to recover your psychological confidence. It is better to use words like "choice," "intention," "desire," "wants," and "what can be done" rather than control yourself by using regretful or forced speech.
"Never"
You should be banned from using the word 'never' when you set goals and move forward. This word is 'toxic'. Clinical psychologist Dr. Kate Cummins said, "If you unconsciously think 'you will never lose much weight' while on a diet, you will already admit that you failed, so it is impossible to achieve your weight loss goal."
"I'm stupid"
This, too, should be avoided with self-deprecation. If you have a goal or role model that you really want, you should continue to push forward with that belief positively. It is important to constantly talk to your inner self and keep motivating yourself. You should intentionally try to think about your strengths and abilities.
"I failed"
If you stigmatize yourself as a "loser," you can see yourself failing in whatever you do surprisingly. Almost all of what you say to yourself can be said to be a self-fulfilling prophecy. This is why he should become a "coach of positivity" Clinical psychologist Dr. Cummins said, "It is necessary to create a separate space for disappointment." It is to forgive yourself and create a separate space for yourself to grow.
"I can't do it. I can't do it"
If you want to make a difference in your life, you have to stay away from negative words. I'm asking you to clarify what you want. The words "can't" and "can't" mean you're already far from your goal. Let's talk about what we can do and what we can accomplish.
"A sense of induction" How to help find self-love
According to a psychology research team at Ohio State University in the U.S., the use of a technology called "a sense of induction" gives self-criticism a more positive view of themselves.
A sense of induction is a technique that stops the idea that 'general and universal conditions are necessary to succeed'. Rather than certain conditions, it induces the idea that individual qualities themselves determine success. It is difficult to accurately understand the meaning of the concept through such an abstract explanation, but a more accurate understanding is possible when looking at the research team's experiments.
The team asked 86 students to guess the number by looking at the twinkling dots on their computer screens. And they gave positive feedback by lying about their performance. When the students who participated in the experiment talked about the wrong number, they gave feedback that they got the correct number.
After the number matching experiment, half of the participating students were asked to explain how they were able to successfully perform their work. "I was able to score very high on this test," he said to the other half. Because I...I was asked to complete the sentence.
Students who correspond to the latter were asked to think of induction. It is a method of explaining the reason why the test was successfully conducted in relation to one's qualifications of "because I am this and that" instead of "how" or "why".
When the concept of induction was implemented, the students' mood was actually improved. Not only did he gain confidence, but he also showed faith that he would be able to do better when given similar tasks in the future.
In another experiment, participants were asked to make a presentation in front of many people. The students who participated in the experiment made a presentation standing in front of the audience and the camera under the theme of "Change in College Life." After the presentation, the research team met each student individually and showed them a video of the student's presentation. And they were reassured, noting that the student's presentation skills were surprisingly good.
And before they came up with another more difficult topic, the team had them experience a sense of induction. Then the students showed an attitude that they would be able to present more confidently. Students who thought they lacked their abilities gained more confidence through this. In the end, it means that an individual's performance ability may originate from practical ability, but it may also be determined by how much confidence he has. The study was published in the Journal of Personality and Social Psychology.
A good decision maker, a good critical attitude
If you want to live a good life, you have to be able to make 'good decisions'. You have to make a good decision to protect your health and maintain your financial status stably. Interpersonal relationships can also be maintained smoothly. Then, what is the secret to making a good decision?
At one time, scholars saw good decisions coming from high IQs. People who scored high on the intelligence test have excellent academic performance and can choose a better job, and overall life is also seen as more.
However, as a result, even smart people make countless mistakes in their lives. Even very serious or dangerous things cause great errors. Making good decisions is not explained by a single good head.
A new paper recently published in the Journal of Thinking Skills and Creativity looked at the utility of IQ in the real world and the mental abilities necessary to make good decisions.
Through this study, the research team confirmed that "critical thinking" is important not to make false judgments. To confirm that critical thinking is an important ability to achieve good results rather than intelligence indices, a research team at California State University conducted a test on 224 participants.
Participants in the experiment, consisting of students and general adults, took a test to evaluate their intelligence index and critical thinking skills online. Intelligence tests were evaluated through memory, visual processing, and quantitative reasoning. In addition, critical thinking ability was tested by evaluating behavior appearing in virtual scenarios and evaluating the validity of information in context.
A typical test method for evaluating critical thinking skills is as follows. Research shows that preschoolers who have attended kindergarten perform better after entering school than children who do not. The content is to determine whether preschoolers should be required to enter kindergartens.
If critical thinking is done properly when given such a scenario, it should first be pointed out that the causal relationship between the high grades of children attending kindergarten and the mandatory admission of preschoolers is unclear. In other words, the higher grades of children attending kindergarten should not lead to a simple conclusion that kindergarten admission should be mandatory.
The research team also paid great attention to the connection between the critical thinking ability of the experimental participants and the practical decision-making power in the real world. The practical decision-making power was evaluated based on how exposed they have been to various bad situations, from the situation of paying a light fine to the situation of sexually transmitted diseases. This is because being exposed to a bad situation means that you made a wrong decision. As a result, the higher the score in critical thinking skills, the higher the possibility of making good decisions in reality.
What we learned from this posting is,
If the object of criticism is to be "self" or "someone else," it is not a good critical attitude. A good critical attitude can be said to be the same as an "attitude to find a way to do better." They also found themselves able to make better decisions. The problem is that our society is not paying much attention to improving these abilities. Better education should teach people good critical thinking skills.
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